Three Weddings and a Baby

Alfie is 8 months old and has already been a guest at three weddings in his short little life!  Each wedding was definitely a different experience to attending a wedding pre-baby, and each wedding was also different due to the different age and circumstances of the event!

His first wedding was when he was just 3 and a half weeks old!  I was a bridesmaid for my best friend, who had been a bridesmaid for me.  I attended her hen do at 8 months pregnant (thank god we had decided to book it quite far in advance of her wedding to coincide with the bank holiday, otherwise I probably wouldn’t have made it!) and was so excited to be a bridesmaid, although I didn’t know how easy or difficult it would be with a baby.

Before I had Alfie, I thought I would just express some milk (as I planned to breastfeed), leave him with Craig while I went and got ready with the bride, and then meet them both again once the ceremony was over.  It went a little bit like that, but not exactly!

Firstly, I couldn’t fit in my bridesmaid dress (as I’d been quite heavily pregnant when it was bought, so I hadn’t had the chance to try it on).  I hadn’t counted on my boobs getting so big, so it was actually fine on my belly, but I couldn’t do it up over my boobs! Cue a mad panic two weeks before the wedding, when Alfie was a week old, to go and find a new dress.  Baring in mind I’d had a caesarean, I really shouldn’t have been running round the shops trying to find a dress, but thankfully it didn’t take long and I found one that fit, was gorgeous, and I could feed in!

Mummy and Alfie
Mummy and Alfie

Secondly, expressing and leaving a bottle wasn’t as easy as I first thought. All the guidelines say you shouldn’t express until baby is at least 6 weeks old as it can mess with your supply.  I think this is the reason I got a blocked duct, which honestly was worse than my labour pains!  In the end I decided I would take Alfie with me when I was getting ready with the bride as it would be easier.  The bride was super lovely, and said I could do whatever was easiest for me (although secretly she wanted Alfie there for lots of baby cuddles!)

Getting all spruced up!
Getting all spruced up!

Alfie was good as gold, and you wouldn’t even know he was there!  He slept soundly in his car seat while we all had our hair done, and then slept while we had our make up done.  The only time he woke was for a feed (although these were quite long as he was only tiny!) but I just fed him then he went back to sleep!  I gave Alfie to Craig just before the ceremony, and he had one bottle of expressed milk in case he needed it during the ceremony (he did).

In the end, it was actually quite easy – as Alfie was so tiny, he slept for most of the day.  The venue was this big amazing house, so it had lots of little rooms that I could go off to and feed (although, I did feed out in public during the speeches, my dress was a little restrictive so I just felt more comfortable being away from the crowds). He even slept whilst I held him next to the dancefloor as we watched the first dance!  So, all in all, it was a fabulous day, and having the baby there didn’t make one bit of difference.  The only flaw in the day was that I was still recovering from the c-section.  Although I felt fine on the day, I didn’t actually take any time to properly sit down and rest (apart from the feeds) and by the time we left at around 11pm, I could barely walk as I was in a lot of pain.  I really paid for it the next day, but it taught me to take things easier and look after myself.

My beautiful family
My beautiful family

Our next wedding was when Alfie was just 6 weeks old.  As this wedding had asked for children not to attend during the day, my mum was on babysitting duty.  For this wedding, I had to express so that Alfie could be fed during the day.  Craig was an usher, so we had to leave Alfie about 11am.  I left about 20oz of milk for him, along with all his baby gear (bean bag to rest on, change of clothes, nappies, wipes, blankets…it was a lot of stuff considering he was only there for a few hours!)

Although we of course missed Alfie, it was actually lovely to spend some time as a couple and with our friends and not have to worry about looking after the baby.  We could sit and enjoy the ceremony without worrying that the baby was going to cry, and also it was the first time I got to eat a hot meal since Alfie arrived!  It was delicious and I really enjoyed it!

Getting some adult time
Getting some adult time

The downside – my poor boobs!! As Alfie was so young, and was feeding so often, I was producing a lot of milk.  I was away from Alfie for 8 hours, but unfortunately only got the opportunity to pump once.  I was fine once I’d pumped (before the meal) but I quickly filled up again and didn’t get the chance to go back to the car to pump.  Honestly, I was in agony (my boobs looked good in the dress though 😉 )

My mum dropped Alfie off at around 8pm, and I couldn’t wait to latch him on and get him to feed!  I felt much better then.  Unfortunately, because I had been away from him all day, he had obviously missed me as all he wanted to do was feed!  It was quite common for him to cluster feed in the evening anyway, but because he hadn’t had boob all day, he clearly wanted to catch up.  This meant I was sat at a table away from the dancefloor for most of the night.  It was a shame as the dancing is usually my favourite part of a wedding – that moment when everyone has had a few drinks, and let themselves loose and enjoy some crazy dancing!  I was quite sad I missed out on that.  Looking back, had I started using my Close Caboo sling, I could have joined everyone on the dancefloor, but I hadn’t yet got to grips with using it.

Having a cuddle with Alfie - I'd missed him!
Having a cuddle with Alfie – I’d missed him!

So, the verdict for this wedding – not impossible, but it was harder to not have Alfie there.  Although we loved the time alone, as a breastfeeding mum, it was quite uncomfortable for me to be away from the baby for that long.

Our final wedding was last week, on April Fool’s Day (how cool!). It was the turn of  my other best friend, who I was a bridesmaid for.  This involved Alfie’s first night away from mummy and daddy as I was staying round my friends the night before and Craig had to go to work in the morning.  So Alfie had a sleepover at his auntie Zozo’s house while Mummy got an (almost) full nights sleep round Auntie LaLa’s.  It was full steam ahead in the morning to get the bride, 3 bridesmaids and Mother of the Bride ready, but we did it and on time as well!! It was great to be able to enjoy myself and not have to worry about stopping to feed, change or entertain Alfie!  Although I did have to excuse myself to go and pump a few times.

One bridesmaid duty that not everyone has to endure!
One bridesmaid duty that not everyone has to endure!

Alfie wasn’t going to be joining us until after the church ceremony, so actually it was lovely.  We got to enjoy the service without worrying about having to step out if Alfie was too noisy.  Although he was unlikely to cry (unless he was hungry!) he is generally a noisy baby as he loves to laugh, and chat away to people!  So I got to sit at the front of the church and not have to worry about how Craig was getting on with Alfie, and Craig got to enjoy the service without having the baby to deal with!

Once we picked him up, he was a little angel.  I got him changed into his suit so he matched Daddy and then had a fab time showing him off.  He’s such a social baby, he was giving everyone smiles, and was happy for complete strangers to have cuddles with him!

We enjoyed our meal, although I was last to finish as Alfie got a little bored so I had to entertain him until Daddy finished eating.  The bride and groom bought Alfie the cutest little bib to wear.

Alfie Jones
Alfie Jones

Alfie got a bit restless during the meal, but they had a live singer (who was AMAZING!!!) so I got up and danced with him.  I’m aware now that I probably looked a little silly, but Alfie thought I was hilarious and it was making him giggle, so I didn’t care.

I managed to get him down for a nap just after the speeches, so we were able to watch the first dance and cutting of the cake while he slept.  We even managed a dance and visit to the photo booth! I was lucky that the bride picked dresses that we could decide our own style to wear, so I was able to fashion something that was easy to breastfeed in – the only problem I had was I didn’t wear the best bra for feeding, but we managed!

I managed to feed at both weddings I was a bridesmaid for
I managed to feed at both weddings I was a bridesmaid for

Unfortunately we didn’t last the whole night.  Alfie got tired but because of all the commotion, he wouldn’t go to sleep even thought he was so tired!  So we left about 11pm, and Alfie fell asleep instantly in the car!

It was a fab day, and so much fun with Alfie.  I loved that everyone loved him and wanted cuddles and to play. He made me a very proud mummy that day!

Having fun as a family
Having fun as a family

So, how easy is it to take a baby to a wedding?  I would say very easy!  Out of all our experiences, it was probably hardest when he wasn’t there. It was a lot calmer when he was a tiny baby, but a lot more fun when he was an older baby.  Would we take him again?  Absolutely! Having said that, it is also lovely to have some adult fun without the baby, and now we’ve established breastfeeding, and I’ve had a lot of practice with pumping and Alfie is a lot older, maybe our next wedding we might leave him at home and book a hotel room!

Alfie is now a pro at attending weddings!
Alfie is now a pro at attending weddings!
Mummuddlingthrough
A Cornish Mum
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16 thoughts on “Three Weddings and a Baby

  1. It was really interesting to read this as we have got two weddings in the same week in August, when our baby will be around 10 weeks old. They are not invited to the first but will be present at the second! So we’ll have two very different experiences as well. I am most anxious about the feeding aspect, but I suppose we’ll just have to wait and see whether I’m breastfeeding or not.

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    1. Must be something about the month of August, as the first two weddings were both in August! It was much easier than I expected to be honest, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself to attend, especially the one without baby! Top tip would be to make sure you have an outfit that is comfortable and easy to feed in case you are breastfeeding – oh and flat shoes are a must!! Good luck xx

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  2. Popping over from #coolmumclub today! You all look so lovely in all of the wedding photos 🙂 Glad the weddings went well, Baby Lighty just wouldn’t settle at the two weddings we went to, but slept, ironically, like a baby at the two parties we went to?! Xxx

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  3. Three lovely looking weddings and you look stunning in every one. This post really takes me back to going to weddings myself with tiny babies we even did one in France where my second son was just six weeks old. Sometimes babies can’t be excluded, they just have to fit in with a fun. #MarvMondays

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    1. Ah thank you very much! I agree, babies should get to join in the fun. We had a wedding to attend in Italy when bubs was 3 weeks old, but we decided to decline that one in advance – good thing we did as I’d have never made it after having a c-section! Thanks for reading xx

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  4. Aw this is so lovely and so glad you figured it all out! I would be so stressed if I had to do the same when really, if I just did it, I think I’d be surprised. Need to stop being so negative! You both looked absolutely gorgeous. Thanks for linking to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

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  5. Our oldest attended so many weddings too! All of our friends were getting married that time. It’s easier to have them there when you are breastfeeding but when they start wanting to crawl it gets harder. Our oldest was so busy & didn’t like sitting on laps so it got difficult. But I too had to go off & express when we didn’t bring our son. It’s tough going either way. Thanks so much for joining us for #bloggerclubuk, hope you will be back again tomorrow! x

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  6. Aww wow what a seasoned wedding guest your little man is. I went to a wedding with my second when he was 4 weeks old and spent most of the day trying to get him to feed as he wasn’t very well. he slept a lot though which was a bonus. Trying to hide my boobs from the lads that were in my year at school, not so much fun haha. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

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